this is for those who miss the big picture while interacting with unsuspecting people who commit themselves much too easily,who are much too trusting , under the unfortunate and false hope and notion that others also think like them, more or less..
when two people decide to embark on a journey of friendship, the first thing to be taken into account is the disparate circumstances each one might be coming from.. respect the other person.. respect his/her ideals and values.. its only because he/she has been respecting you a lot that not a single offensive word was uttered against your ways and your behaviour,till the day he/she could take the sarcasm and the criticism on bogus non-existent things no longer and hence decided to react.. in other words, you weren't criticised even once not because you were above criticism, but because she respected you, she respected the friendship she shared with you..
'controversial' is the person who started it all, poking, prodding and pointing at the other person who was blissfully unaware of any disagreement between them.. no, the title controversial doesn't suit the other one who was forced to react to baseless and stupid accusations.. agree, the reaction might have gone out of hand .. only because there was so much one-sided INNOCENT trust and affection involved..
a person using punctuation marks wherever necessary, a person who rarely misspelt a word while texting -this wasn't proof enough to implicate one as an 'image conscious person'.. a fairly good student at school just blindly followed what she was taught, into the later stages of her life too.. as simple as that..
a woman who refuses to be blatant and over the top about certain things doesn't mean she's a fake.. thats where one's formative years, what one calls upbringing, play the role.. saying on one hand that you appreciate and adore subtlety and on the other , calling a woman a fake just because she refused to reciprocate in a certain manner because she very much believed in the beauty of subtlety in a woman, makes you the fake one.. and the contradictory one too, for that matter..
a woman who weighed nearly 65 kg lost nearly 10 kgs in a couple of years.. not because she was figure conscious or diet conscious.. pity you, there are a horde of other reasons behind people losing weight.. not all slim women in the world are slim by choice.. there is a chance that life might've treated them hard which transformed them from chubby to lean.. likewise, not all chubby women gorge..been there , done that .. 82 kg to 58 kg.. she knows.. and no, its not the ultimate dream of every woman in the world to look good till the day she breathes her last.. ifgod blessed one with an attractive exterior, as a woman, yes, extremely grateful to god.. and, also to one's blessed genes.. but thats it.. there are far more important things in life which deserve urgent attention.. there are ladies who don't bother to even shape their eyebrows, who live in highrises , in 'cosmopolitan' cities , who are blessed with the resources, but who don't give even a chance contemplation to these things..the word life has an entirely different definition for these ladies.. unlike the ones you might be familiar with.. not that taking care of oneself is a crime..but it doesn't feature in the top priority list of each n every woman..
she is not crazy to address someone 5 or 6 years elder to her as 'aunty'.. nor does she exercises the false hope that by calling a peer as aunt,she can project herself as a 'little girl' .. that it will automatically lower her biological age in the eyes of others.. do know, its 'our custom' of giving respect to an uncle's wife, no matter what her age is.. and she is definitely not ashamed of herself for that.. she continues and will continue doing that till her time ends.. because thats a custom she believes in.. and she addresses her friends who are 10-15 years elder to her by their names.. you might be calling your sister's mom-in-law by whatever name you please.. she respects that because she respects your background.. moreover, she respects you, which kept her from unnecessarily criticising your way of life and the things you were familiar with.. its all about cultural difference.. pity some people forget to take into account even that, before making mountains out of molehills, before hurling contempt-worthy 'clownish' allegations at others..
dont know about you, but it isn't isolation alone which makes a person yearn for the presence of someone else.. sometimes it could be the reflection of how attached a person is to another.. and that kind of an attachment is capable of making a person feel lonely in the midst of even a thousand other people .. no use talking about such intricacies to your kind of people when even the very obvious remains misunderstood..
she would like to clarify many other things, not for your information, if not to help lift the dark cloud which enveloped her heart a few years back.. but she is unable to remind herself of some of the horrid allegations.. and in a way, she's happy that she's finally able to let go.. and oh yes, the smileys she had been using at the end of conversations.. those were genuine smiles from her.. if ever she addressed you dear, it was with a very genuine heart too.. that 'dear' had meaning.. she's just a poor soul who happened to cross your path on the unluckiest day of her life.. she was a 'girl' when she met you.. now she's a full-fledged 'woman', a lady who said bye bye to innocence, which is no longer a virtue in this world, which is inhabited by callous people like you.. she encountered the worst form of sadism and ego in you.. no matter where you go, no matter what you do, the memory of a soul which you tortured and crucified for no apparent reason with such brutality, a brutality beyond your own imagination , will remain etched in your paths forever, bringing forth many realisations as life goes on.. thats the curse .. :)
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